Building Relationships

By: Coach Sammie

In the past 2 weeks, our community has had to bid farewell to 4 amazing people who have been our members for several years. They are each leaving the state/area for work related reasons (promotions, fellowships, schooling) and we could not be more proud of the growth they have made in the time we have known them. We are so excited for the next part of their journeys and know with certainty they will be successful in achieving their goals.

As I said my goodbyes, I was met with kind words and warm embraces. Gestures that made me realize Reviver was not merely just a gym to them, but so much more. Each of them mentioned how much they will miss the community, the relationships they have built, and everything they have learned here.

Hearing this made me think of OUR VISION at Reviver: To create an ever-expanding community that fosters our commitment to changing lives and building relationships through functional training and hard work.

I’d like to take a moment to talk about the word, RELATIONSHIPS, and what that means to me. Strong, meaningful, true relationships take time to build. They take commitment, they take patience, they grow, they evolve, and they are hard to break. Those are the types of relationships we hope to build inside these walls, and the ones we hope our members continue to pursue outside of these walls.

One of our main goals at Reviver is to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself, your family, your friends, your co-workers, and your community. How can a gym do that? Isn’t it just a place to exercise and get sweaty? That is what I thought 5+ years ago when I joined, because any gym I belonged to prior to Reviver was merely that, a place to exercise. I did not understand how it could be more, or why I would want it to be. My life has changed drastically since that day and over the course of 5 years I have seen countless others experience the same changes.

Here are some tips on how to begin building better relationships:

  1. Start with yourself – Let’s begin with how you talk to yourself (we all do it so don’t deny it). Is your inner voice throwing insults and negativity your way (being a bully), or is it filled with motivation, encouragement, and confidence (being a friend). Where does bullying yourself get you? Nowhere!… OK done with that. Now this isn’t just about self-talk (as most people say, actions speak louder than words), it’s also about how you treat yourself. How can you possibly take care of anyone else if you are not willing to and actively taking care of yourself? I bet you a pretty penny that if you were healthier, fitter, less stressed out, and had more energy… you’d probably be a better parent/spouse/sibling/friend/co-worker. Anyone want to argue that? I didn’t think so.
  2. Family/Friends – Here is where things can get tricky. Rather than going on all day here, I’m going to keep it simple. CREATE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE WHO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE YOUR LIFE… AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE IN THEIRS.
  3. Co-Workers – Let’s be honest, you can’t always choose who you work with. My advice here is the latter part of (2). Be a positive influence to your co-workers. Be that person that they can rely on, look up to, and strive to be like. It’s kind of cliché but positivity is contagious, so is negativity… choose wisely which you spread.
  4. Community – I think I may be psychic… here’s my prediction… I predict that if you do 1-3, you will automatically do 4. A person who believes in themselves and lives a healthy life, is surrounded with meaningful relationships, and pursues positive interactions with others…. will improve relationships in their community. Just think with no negative self-talk you will have lots of time to think about others and how to help them, plus you’re going to have a lot more energy because you’re ya know… healthy and stuff. By creating meaningful relationships with others you are likely want to do meaningful things together, like I don’t know, get together with other positive people and do positive things. And lastly, you have no idea how impactful you can be to your co-workers and the people in their personal lives just by simply being a kind and helpful role model.

Inside these walls the classes are filled with best friends, brothers and sisters, cousins, husbands and wives, parents and children, as well as co-workers. The majority of new members that walk through our doors are personal referrals from current members. They are not going out to solicit random people on the street. They are reaching out to the people closest in their lives who they want to see improve their quality of life and believe we can help in making these healthy changes.

Break that down for a second with me… Our members are people who (1) decided to improve their relationship with SELF by joining a gym and making healthy lifestyle changes. People who then (2 & 3) reached out to FAMILY/FRIENDS/CO-WORKERS to be a positive influence and help these individuals start improvement in their own self-relationships. People who by doing 1, 2 and 3) have created (4) an incredible, healthy, fun-filled COMMUNITY that continues to expand with the growth of their relationships!.. The end.