Guilt is Not The Answer

By: Coach J

Have you ever felt a massive pile of guilt on your conscious after any of the following events:

  • Eating copious amounts of junk food
  • Missing one or multiple workouts
  • Taking a nap
  • Sleeping in on the weekend
  • Not drinking any water during the day
  • Drinking alcohol
  • Etc., etc., etc.,

If so, let me ask you a question, has feeling guilty ever improved the situation? Has guilt ever made those events disappear from existence? I’m going to assume that the answers to those questions are no – how do I know this? Because I’ve been there and done that, and I know that guilt has NEVER helped. With that said, let me ask you this, have you ever experienced the feeling of guilt after an event like those listed and let that snowball into more and more decisions that probably weren’t the greatest? Yes, you have, and then what? You probably felt even more guilt! Again, I’ve been there, done that. 

So what can we do to avoid the guilt train? First, try to be more conscious when it comes to making choices – own the fact that you have a choice to do or not do something and commit to your decision. If you decide to skip your workout to go home and take a nap, please make that decision with purpose and don’t wake up feeling guilty for it!

Second, if by chance you do make a poor decision and do something that you’re not particularly proud of, please stop feeling guilty. Get over it and get back on the gain train – and please none of the, “ill start back Monday” crap. It only takes a matter of seconds to make a great choice and get back on track – so don’t wait til the next week to do so!

Personal example – This week I celebrated my ten year anniversary of being 21 🙂 In doing so, my beautiful bride took me to a great dinner where I enjoyed drinks, appetizers, a delicious main course and followed it all up with a very large helping of Fro-Yo (Frozen Yogurt for you non-hip people). Going down, everything was amazing – however, afterwards I can’t say that I felt so great. But did I feel guilty? Heck no – why? Because it was my birthday and whenever there’s a special event I have the right to eat and drink whatever I want with no consequences, right? FALSE! Its because I made a decision to indulge in things that I don’t eat on a regular basis knowing damn well that I would not feel great afterwards – and I was okay with it. I got done, felt like my stomach was going to burst, went to bed, woke up and moved on. 

The problem I see most people deal with is they let their situations control their behaviors and then feel guilty for doing so – STOP THIS RIGHT NOW! Take ownership of your choices, stop blaming your situation or peers, stop feeling guilty, and achieve greatness!